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To build trust with your parents:

1. Be honest with them, even when you have done wrong. If they cannot trust what you say to them, how can you expect them to trust you when you are out of their sight?

2. Ask for their permission; do not just assume that your parents would approve. This conveys your respect for their authority and desire to be respectful. A phone call to relate an unexpected change of plans helps to build trust, rather than explaining it after you arrive home later than planned.

3. Convey your love to your parents. To love them or to show that you love them can be two different things. Show your appreciation by saying, "Thanks very much, Dad!" or "That was a delicious meal, Mom!" Be willing to help and perform favors for your parents.

4. Speak with, and listen to, your parents. God has provided you with parents who have more experience in life and a true concern for you. This makes them an excellent source for guidance. Your willingness and desire to discuss your concerns with them helps to build trust.

5. Try to understand your parents. Try to understand their God-given task, responsibility, and authority as parents. Seek to appreciate that it is their deep love for you which makes them so concerned about your welfare. If you must speak with them about a disagreement, strive to do so in a respectful manner and in appreciation of their deep concern for you.

6. Pray for your parents. Their duties are tremendous! They are struggling to do their best, even with their faults and shortcomings.

You have the potential for providing your parents with the greatest joys, but also the deepest sorrows possible from any human being. This is due to their heartfelt love, concern, and attachment to you. Seek God's grace and strive to exercise the previous six trust-building guidelines. Your relationship with your parents can be deepened and enriched during your teen years. You can grow in sharing, talking, and doing things with them on a more adult level, which is enjoyable to both you and your parents.


Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right,

Honour thy father and thy mother; which is the first commandment with promise;

That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

- Ephesians 6:1-4

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

- Colossians 3:20-21



The proverbs of Solomon: A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.

- Proverbs 10:1

The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him.

- Proverbs 23:24

A foolish son is the calamity of his father.

- Proverbs 19:13a


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