But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
- James 1:14
Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul.
- I Peter 2:11
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
- II Timothy 2:22
Karl's high school graduation was approaching. He knew that almost everyone would be bringing a date to the dinner evening. He pictured the evening in his mind and wanted a date that would impress his friends. Suddenly he thought of Nancy and asked her.
That evening, he liked the feeling of excitement of having Nancy riding with him in his car and of walking into the hall with her.
Did Karl think and care about Nancy as a person? Was there love for her in his feelings? Why not?
Lust is also shallow and self-centered. It "loves" the other person physically - it desires the other in a lustful, sexual way. There is no true "love" in lust. Lust will use (rather "misuse") the other person to satisfy its own desires.
Vince had dated Alice three times, and tonight they were going out for their fourth date. Alice liked him, but his insistence on "going parking" and his pushing of physical intimacy bothered her. She had to stop him more than once. She thought he really liked her, yet she was worried about what might happen if they grew to love one another.
Vince was also thinking about his date with Alice. His thoughts, however, centered on how to get through the first part of the evening quickly to have more time for "parking." Had Alice realized this, or had she been aware of his bragging (and exaggerating) when sharing with the other guys at school about "how far he got," she would have dropped him immediately.
Did Vince care about Alice at all - her personhood, welfare, and reputation? How are lust and love opposites?